Breaking the Code of Codependence – Contents

Breaking the code of co-dependence
– Defining Codependence
– Analyzing Codependence

Part I
(Part I reviews the literature on research into codependence. It outlines theories regarding etiology and the personality characteristics of the codependent identity)

Chapter One: The Codependent Identity
– How Codependence Is Measured
– Our Family of Origin
– Dysfunctional Environment
– Numbing
– Role Assumption and Parentification
– Personality Variables
– Avoidant or Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment
– Arrested Ego Development
– Self Consciousness
– Shame Proneness and Lower Self Esteem
– Post-traumatic Stress Disorder
– Interrelationship and Intrarelationship Factors
– Gender Differences
– Endogenous and Exogenous Codependence

Chapter Two: Understanding Codependence
– Personality Disorders
– Codependence As Addiction
– Attachment Style, Codependence and Interpersonal Neurobiology
– Collaborative Communication
– Reflective Dialogue
– Repair
– Coherent Narratives
– Emotional Communication
– Arrested Psychosocial Development
– Our Relationship To Ourselves

Chapter Three: Society’s Child
– How Codependence Became Popular
– Patriarchy and the Addictive Society
– What Is Normal Behavior?
– Codependence and Subservience
– Who Has the Power?

Chapter Four: Gender and Codependence
– Labeling and Pathology
– Familial Structures
– Gender and the DSM
– Gender Bias

Chapter Five: 12-Steps and Recovery
– 12-Steps Model of Recovery
– Step One
– Step Two
– Step Three
– Step Four
– Step Five
– Step Six
– Step Seven
– Step Eight
– Step Nine
– Step Ten
– Step Eleven
– Step Twelve
– Applauding the 12-Steps

Chapter Six: Moving Beyond Recovery
– One Size Fits All
– Growing Up Female
– Am I Responsible?
– Names Will Never Hurt Me?
– Learned Helplessness
– Developing Social Consciousness
– How To Heal

Part II

(Part II outlines how we take in reality, the various forces and perspectives in psychology that allow an individual to understand codependence through multiple psychological lenses. It addresses the changes in consciousness, perception and behaviors that are necessary if one is to heal from codependence. Codependence is proposed to be a personal mythology in need of revision. From the information gained in Part I of this book, the reader is prepared to “see” codependence as a condition born from patriarchy and the sociocultural conditions that result in behaviors that are labeled as codependence. The reader will come full circle in this exploration of codependence to understand that there is a path to healing. Transpersonal theories and techniques are introduced that provide the reader with a roadmap to journey the path of healing)

Chapter Seven: A Primer of Transpersonal Psychology
– Forces In Psychology
– The Humanistic Movement
– The Fourth Force
– Unity Consciousness
– Transpersonal Intervention
– Mindfulness
– Dropping Our Ego
– Four Noble Truths & the Eightfold Path

Chapter Eight: How Consciousness Works
– Is Truth or Reality Fixed?
– What’s That?
– The Spectrum of Consciousness
– Transcendence
– Evolving Consciousness

Chapter Nine: What is My Mythology?
– Individuation
– What Archetypes Tell Us
– Codependence As An Archetype
– Breaking the Code
– Re-visioning Our Personal Mythology
– Stage 1: Framing Personal Concerns and Difficulties In Terms of Deeper Mythological Conflicts
– Stage 2: Bringing the Roots of Each Side of the Conflict Into Focus
– Stage 3: Conceiving a Unifying Mythic Vision
– Stage 4: Refining the Vision Into a Commitment Toward a Renewed Mythology
– Stage 5: Weaving the Renewed Mythology Into Daily Life

Chapter Ten: Work to Be Done
– Soul Work
– The Road Not Taken
– Awakening
– Identification
– Conceptual Reflection
– Phenomenological Reflection
– Mindfulness
– Have A Heart
– The Heart Knows
– How the Self Came Into Being
– Body and Soul

Chapter Twelve: Reframing the Construct of Codependence
– A Conscious Path To Intimacy